Single, Saved, and not quite Satisfied

So, here's a question for you: Why do you want to get married? No, it's not rhetorical. Really, like right now, write down EVERY single reason. I don't care how trivial it may be, write it all down. Now, here comes the challenge. Ask God to fulfill everything that is on your list. Is companionship on your list? Ask God to reveal to you the many ways that He expresses his sincere friendship with you on a daily basis. Is love on your list? Ask God to reveal the unique ways that He loves you. I'm not talking about the, "Jesus loves the little children" type of love...no, I'm talking about that especially designed for fill in your name right here type of love. What about intimacy? Well try to spend some intimate time with God. As much as you desire it from others, God desires it from you even more. Now, you may be thinking...how is God going to fulfill the desire for sex without a man/woman? Clearly, God placed that desire in us for a reason. The question is, why is that desire so high? Ask God to reveal to you the things in your life that constantly increase that desire (music, television, friends, pornography...let's be real). God created sex, but He also created in us the power ( Eph 3:20 , 1 Cor 10:13 ) to control that desire until marriage. Activate that power!
Here's an analogy to make this easier:


Think of yourself as cake and the husband/wife you desire as icing. While the icing can make a piece of cake delicious, a piece of cake on its own is quite satisfying. The cake is complete before the icing is even applied. It was completed the minute all the ingredients were mixed together and it was placed in the oven to bake.

Now, let's take this a step further. We know that icing can only be put on the cake when it is completely baked and cooled off. So why would you want to put icing on a cake that is still a little raw on the inside? All that does is deceive others who think that the cake was fully baked. You're left with nothing but a big, raw, unsatisfying mess. Now say that the cake is fully baked, but you try to put the icing on as soon as it comes out of the oven. Clearly, the icing becomes all runny because the cake was not ready for it to be applied. Again, you're left with a nasty mess.


Now, back to you being the cake. Until you realize that you are already completed---you still have come baking to do (yeah, I know it's hot in the oven, but it's all a part of the process).

Furthermore, once you are taken out of the oven, don't think icing (husband/wife) is going to come right away. You have to wait. If icing comes now, you'll just mess up its consistency.

[SIDENOTE: Icing may never come. It simply might not be a part of your plan. As hard as it is, you're going to have to accept the fact that you are complete and satisfying without it]

So, what stage are you at? Maybe all of your ingredients are still being mixed together? Maybe you're baking in the oven? Or, you may have just come out and need some time before icing is added. Regardless of your stage, recognize that God has, is, and will continue to sustain you until the appointed time...just TRUST Him. God is more than enough for us...do you believe it? Then walk in it!

~Dove Sister Renee Davis~